{"id":2438,"date":"2025-08-06T22:15:38","date_gmt":"2025-08-06T19:15:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.iskiliga.com\/?p=2438"},"modified":"2025-08-06T22:16:20","modified_gmt":"2025-08-06T19:16:20","slug":"to-be-a-good-enough-mum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.iskiliga.com\/en\/to-be-a-good-enough-mum\/","title":{"rendered":"What does it mean to be a \"good enough mum\"?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Good Enough There is great value in being a Good Enough Mum, not perfect, but enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some mornings I wake up not with an alarm, but with a tiny \"Mummy\" sound. The day starts before my eyes are fully open. I may be sleepless and tired, but I prepare breakfast, change the nappy, play games, and be with him when he cries. I always have one question in my mind: \"Am I a good enough mum?\"<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is Being a Good Enough Mum?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You've heard the phrase \"be a good enough mum\". This is very different from superhero motherhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This concept, introduced by psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, is not the \"perfect mum\", \"good enough mum\"<\/strong> yani yeterince iyi anne modelidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar %100 kusursuz bak\u0131mdan ziyade insani, hatalarla dolu ama sevgi dolu bir ili\u015fkiye ihtiya\u00e7 duyarlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What are the Characteristics of Being a Good Mother?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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  • It doesn't have to be perfect.<\/strong> He can make mistakes, sometimes his patience runs out.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • It is important to be able to repair the relationship.<\/strong> For example, hugging after shouting, apologising.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Providing a safe space<\/strong> and to know its limits.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • To be with you, to support you, to laugh and cry together.<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • A realistic and loving approach to the needs of the child.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    Whose concept is Good Enough Mum?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    This concept was first put forward by psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott. He advised to avoid perfectionist expectations in the mother-child relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    What to Do to Be a Good Mum?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    • To show compassion for yourself and your child.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Stop being perfect and focus on being \"good enough\".<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Valuing the child's feelings, being there for him\/her.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Recognise their own limits and do not ignore their needs.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Not making the perfect motherhood poses on social media as a benchmark.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

      What is Mother Love Like?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      A mother's love is unconditional. It recognises mistakes, builds a mutual bond and supports the emotional development of the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Final Word: Have Self-Compassion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      \"When I have compassion for myself, my mothering flows more smoothly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Remember, every mother who loves her baby and strives not to harm her baby good enough<\/strong>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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